In choosing to have a dualistic experience as a human being, means that our experiences and relationships with the world will vary from pleasant to unpleasant, and from positive to negative. Often we judge situations and relationships that are uncomfortable and not enjoyable, thinking that it’s not what we should be experiencing at that time. We may move into a state of victim-hood and blame, creating more separation between ourselves and the person, group or situation. Instead of taking the necessary lessons required to learn and expand, we often continue to reinforce old beliefs, fears and patterns.
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