The thing is, it's been going on for so long that the sheer incremental passage of laborious time, eventually weighs most of us down. That's what it's all about. You get discouraged. Then you get frightened and then you get angry. Then you get whatever you get, based on what you don't get, based on wanting the wrong thing or just wanting, instead of having that confident expectation that whatever is going to show up is the right thing because you are not getting in the way.